Pathfinder Club

In the condition No. 1 area "Developing Friendship" of the kind of friend is determined that the conqueror must know the Golden Rule and the qualities required of all good friend.

Here we share some ideas for your exhibition or task.

Rules that any good friend should meet

1. Cultivate the friendship day. Like all relationships, care portends a more significant and lasting union.
2. Stay open while respecting their feelings and those of another.
3. Be willing to share and at the same time, a good listener.
4. Show confidence and discretion. These features are indispensable.
5. Develop a genuine interest in the other. When you say "How are you?", Do not compromise, but honestly, and take time to listen carefully to the answer.
6. Be sure to highlight the positive qualities of others. All people have strengths and weaknesses. One depends on the light or choose to look at the shadow.
7. Be interested in the opinions of others, especially if different from yours. Remember that you can listen to the other without losing one's opinion.
8. Ask emotional support or help to solve a problem when needed. Do not wait for the other to guess.

The principle of reciprocity

by Ricardo Bentancur

Taken from The Sentinel

The Spanish philosopher José Antonio Marina summed up the secret of interpersonal relationships with the following words: "There are two types of powers: those based on the submission and those based on reciprocity. Those sucked out, living sucking the alien mind. These increase the energy of all participants ". ¹

Here is a basic principle in human relationships, easy to understand but difficult to implement. Jesus was said it best: "As you would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them" (Luke 6:31). Psychologists call this the "principle of reciprocity." It means, in other words, people respond normally to the way it is treated or considered.

When I came to the United States knew that here he could apply the "proof of the pavement, designed by the psychologist Jard De Ville: Greet all who cross me in the street with a kind gesture. Wherever I go, I salute those who approach with a broad smile and a loud "good morning". The 90 percent of casual passersby also responds with a smile, bowing his head and a loving greeting. This test has a negative version. If you look with hostility to those who cross with you, the answer will not fail you: most respond with some degree of aggression. The principle of reciprocity is as absolute as the law of gravity.

Ellen Writer White admirably describes how Jesus applied the principle of reciprocity in their daily dealings with people: "In every human being perceived infinite possibilities. Saw men as could be transformed by His grace ... Looking at them with hope, inspire hope. At greet them with confidence, inspired confidence. By revealing in itself the true ideal of man, I was desired to obtain housing and faith. ^"2

Art Buchwald has that being in New York, was traveling in a taxi with a friend. At the conclusion of the trip, the friend told the driver: "Thanks for the trip. You drove beautifully. "

The driver, shocked, replied: "Are you kidding or what?"

- No, my dear friend, I am not mocking you. I admire the way he keeps calm amid the heavy traffic.

- Oh, really? No kidding!, "Said the driver and left.

Buchwald asked the friend: "What is this?"

- I'm trying to love New York again, "he said. I think the only thing that can save the city.

Explained the principle of reciprocity in these terms: "I think I have that driver has a different day. Imagine, he makes twenty trips. It will be nice to all clients, because someone was nice to him. Those passengers will be both kinder to their employees or shopkeepers or waiters or even their own families. Over time, the goodwill could spread to at least a thousand people. I realize that my system is not foolproof, but today may deal with ten different people. If I can make happy ten to three, then over time I can indirectly influence the attitudes of three thousand more. "

What about the principle? Not bad, is not it? Try today to apply the positive version of this principle in his life. It will take a very pleasant surprise.